Balancing motherhood and work
Having a baby is a landmark occasion in anyone’s life and balancing this with a career can be overwhelming!
In particular working mothers can carry a great burden of guild and self-judgment when trying to balance career and family, especially when their children are young and in the care of someone else.
Much of this worry is established even in the early days of planning a pregnancy. This builds throughout the prenatal period and without effective education, guidance and support this may impact on your personal and professional life.
- 51% of working mums feel guilty about not spending enough time with their kids.
- Yet 55% stay at home mums feel guilty about not contributing financially.
So where is this criticism coming from? When asked, most women say “I am my own worst critic”.
The need to support women and men to find a manageable work/life balance has never been more obvious. Recent reports from Australia’s workplace watchdog now state that pregnancy discrimination at work is ranking higher than mental health and disability complaints. That’s distressing to hear, but also indicates that women are speaking up about their rights. They want to be better understood, respected and have manageable work arrangements in place. See this ABC report
Many women want to work and are happy with their employment but struggle to communicate their needs and negotiate an equitable working arrangement. For many the age old maternal career conflict still exists. It may have an impact on:
- Productivity at work
- Family dynamics
- Personal health care
- Management of time and energy
We work with people to navigate these common internal conflicts, along with the real or perceived external pressure they feel, to resolve these stress-inducing issues.
What can you do to feel better right now, if you are dealing a difficult issues?
- Remember that you are not alone and it’s ok to feel what you feel.
- Know your rights – see Australian human rights commission
- Allow yourself to let go of any judgement you may have on yourself.
- Connect to what your body is feeling and acknowledge it. Notice what sensations are coming up for you.
- Share this with someone you trust so you can air it – let it have room to move out of your body.
- For a moment stay focused in the moment of NOW, not the past or the future, so you can breath and be. This will help your nervous system to relax a little.
- Then move into what the next step of action you could take is to deal with this challenge in a positive way.
The Parental leave wellness program is also a next step you can take. We discuss having your employer on board in supporting you through your pregnancy and parental leave time. Our program is customised to compliment existing programs and enhance your success in business, birthing and beyond.